Sarah: “It's very normal to be interested in other people”
Sarah Jessica Parker is a strong believer of attraction and says it’s okay to be intrigued by others – as long as the person doesn’t cross the line and have an affair.
The Sex and the City star – who has been married to Matthew Broderick for almost 20 years – understands that we are only human and temptation is to be expected at times. With that in mind, she highly discourages people from following through and suggests they respect boundaries.
She shared with Stella magazine: “It’s very normal to be interested in other people. But it doesn’t mean you have to follow through.”
The actress believes that people have extramarital affairs for a number of reasons: “My experience of talking to women is that they have affairs when they’re not happy, when they are feeling diminished or ignored or not heard.
It’s not about sex – it’s about someone hearing them and seeing them and connecting. Whereas men seem to have affairs when they are feeling good about themselves; like they think it would be selfish of them not to share themselves with others.”
And the star also offered some basic, but effective advice about long-lasting marriage.
“I know it sounds dreary and not sexy, but I think the most important part of it is companionship. For me, it’s about asking myself: who do I want to sit with, in Ireland? Who do I want to see those ruins with? Who is still the most challenging to me? Who do I like best?”
The 51-year-old says she and her spouse are well-suited and still get a kick out of each other’s company, even after all these years.
She explained: “There is an enormous amount of discussion and dissection and introspection about it. We have common interests and we still really enjoy each other’s company. We are suited to each other…At least for the time being.”